More wisdom - Anger

Ok it might just take 24 weeks to get these 24 lessons out. Maybe number two should be "Be careful what goals you set out to achieve that are publicly declared".... hmmm... naah

So back to Anger.

2. Loose your cool, get hacked off... occasionally (but no one likes a whiner)

I feel you can not fully know some one until you have seen them loose their cool. When you have seen some one angry (or annoyed) they tend to act out who they really are and drop the mask of pretending to be the person that the think they are supposed to be. I would even go as far as to say that in a serious relationship (romantic or friendly) that the relationship can not fully develop until both parties have irritated each other enough for a nice tiff. (that's a fight not a picture).

And the poor lad that dates me usually gets annoyed and prodded and riled until he gently snaps and displays that temper. And then I know his levers and buttons and I control his poor tortured soul for the rest of eternity. It's cruel I know - girls are just like that.

Now I really find people interesting. I want to pull your personality apart and understand it and classify you as a certain kind of person. This does explain two fundamentals of who I am.

a) My fascination with boys - see, I understand the female mind because like duuuh I have one (and the short answer is that it is completely irrational very very irrational.... on a calm day) but the male mind is a mystery (ie not simply irrational). and so I must delve into your thoughts and ideas and who you are and then once I have asked enough nosey questions, I have classified you and put you in a box and my fascination seeks a new target... ["look at the time... I think I left something on the stove... Good bye!" ]

b)My obsession with boys who are weird. I say obsession because (it isn't adoration) my friends have watched me meet some random chap and if I can't figure him out in a conversation then my mind becomes absorbed with them. Like being given a marble instead of a gobstopper - confusingly still there after an hour of trying to digest it. but instead of course I'm digesting personalities... (whoooow my metaphors are getting peculiar.)

Anyway so mooooving right along... The conclusion I am drawing is that for me, I feel I don't know you fully until I have seen you cheesed off - it's like seeing you display irritation confirms that, like everyone, you have an imperfection, you are a real person and not some puppet or an actor trying to be someone else. The lesson is that be careful who you become when you are angry - because that is when people are watching the most closely. ... Especially me - who just wants to classify you and pop you in that box. ("hmmmm a fine specimen of the order of perfectionist-about-accurate-details variety")

24 things I have learnt (or should have learnt by now)

before you roll your eyes - Birthdays are big things to me. BIG. I spend 6 months of the year looking forward to my birthday and 6 months of the year feeling sad the day went by so quickly.

So I decided present 24 things I have learnt (or should have learnt) by now in several parts... And we will begin with this one which was pre-tested on Heather who agrees with me.

1. Never buy your boyfriend a pink shirt.
He will only not wear it and hurt your feelings or else wear it to stop you complaining and feel like a flower all day. I sat and listened to a group of girls discuss how each of them had bought a really fashionable pink shirt for their boyfriends and none of their boyfriends would wear it. tut tut tut silly girls!

The logic here is that as fashionable as the metrosexual lads look in pretty pink, if guys really wanted to wear pink they would all be rushing off to Woolworths in crowds, picking up the first pink shirt off the pile, holding it up to see it it is more or less the right size and paying for them.
Lads only have 5 colours in their wardrobes white, black, brown, navy and grey. and why so few colours? Have you seen a guy wearing a green jersey, a red shirt, blue trousers and yellow socks - they look silly (like they finally started dressing themselves). And so we help them out by limiting their wardrobe colour spectrum to 5 safe colours that all go together nicely.
I will confess that there is a chap at work who wears yellow socks - it's a whimsical addition to his fashionable ensemble He seems to enjoy wandering around the office with his hands in his pockets in such a manner that you get a lemon coloured glimpse when he comes to speak to me - "Yes Sir, I am staring at your feet"

Long time no Blog

So I have been like way way busy lately with preparing for the trip to Germany and with work schedules being compressed from Months into Weeks and turning 24 along the way. I even managed to not blog the post I wanted to put up on mygerman exchange participants who regularly birthday.

I find it really frustrating being busy. I guess im just a lazy person. but I go crazy if I can't have time to be a vegetable everyday (hence why I like to sleep) It is just a pity that I keep dozing off every evening that I go to bed because when Im sleeping I can't enjoy the pleasure of lying about doing nothing!

And then for the trip to Germany they did the barbaric deed of making me a leader!!! Which I suck at because I make a habit of watching deadlines breeze past and go "Whoops - guess I missed that one - oh darn shucks!" I do have some frustrated participants who regularly remind me of what needs to be done. Buuuuttt I am like 3 years older than all of them so i have to play the space-cadet who has responsibility - yaaay we all love responsibility wooooo....

But now it is friday and I have a clear plan for the weekend, Im doing dinner tonight with a varsity friend, lunch tomorrow with my long lost durban-residing brother and breakfast on sunday with school friends. Ill be having a full day's worth of meals - just need to organise tea! I did of course make sure I scheduled some do-nothing time. Time to be buried in a book - A-W-E-S-O-M-E! but for now I need to twiddle my thumbs at work for another 45 minutes and then be off to dinner - a ladies dinner too :)

hmmmm maybe Ill try some wine this evening - I just have to watch my p's and q's since the lady I am dinner-ing with is a bit of a wine expert - Ill have to play my wine selection safe in order to not be corrected of my wine-esior ignorance

Public Holidays

Sadly today is the last of the public holidays for our National Unproductivity Month. (Secretly I think that Metrobus drivers went on strike this week as an excuse to not work this pitifully short 3 day work week)

My sleep schedule is kinda screwed up by all these off days because my body cant get used to the constant flipping between sleeping in until 9 or 10 and the early 6 o'clock work day wake up times.

I will hate having to get up early FIVE whole times in a row next week Shock Horror!

I kinda missed out on the sleeping late ritual today anyway. I went with the whole family up to visit relatives up in Magaliesburg today Which included having to be iup terribly early to make the most of day. woooo It is really hard living with morning people uuugggh! My younger sibling had a spark of a realisation today that big sister Frances is Not a morning person... ummm Bit late to only realise that now... Anyway we can't all be 17 and to cool to notice like stuff ok?

now we on the way home. My fathers over active sudden braking and the bumpy roads is enough to push this sweet lady to muttered swear words and shaking of fists. Fortunately it is only a 90 minutes journey. Fresh Air Soon Please!