More wisdom - Anger

Ok it might just take 24 weeks to get these 24 lessons out. Maybe number two should be "Be careful what goals you set out to achieve that are publicly declared".... hmmm... naah

So back to Anger.

2. Loose your cool, get hacked off... occasionally (but no one likes a whiner)

I feel you can not fully know some one until you have seen them loose their cool. When you have seen some one angry (or annoyed) they tend to act out who they really are and drop the mask of pretending to be the person that the think they are supposed to be. I would even go as far as to say that in a serious relationship (romantic or friendly) that the relationship can not fully develop until both parties have irritated each other enough for a nice tiff. (that's a fight not a picture).

And the poor lad that dates me usually gets annoyed and prodded and riled until he gently snaps and displays that temper. And then I know his levers and buttons and I control his poor tortured soul for the rest of eternity. It's cruel I know - girls are just like that.

Now I really find people interesting. I want to pull your personality apart and understand it and classify you as a certain kind of person. This does explain two fundamentals of who I am.

a) My fascination with boys - see, I understand the female mind because like duuuh I have one (and the short answer is that it is completely irrational very very irrational.... on a calm day) but the male mind is a mystery (ie not simply irrational). and so I must delve into your thoughts and ideas and who you are and then once I have asked enough nosey questions, I have classified you and put you in a box and my fascination seeks a new target... ["look at the time... I think I left something on the stove... Good bye!" ]

b)My obsession with boys who are weird. I say obsession because (it isn't adoration) my friends have watched me meet some random chap and if I can't figure him out in a conversation then my mind becomes absorbed with them. Like being given a marble instead of a gobstopper - confusingly still there after an hour of trying to digest it. but instead of course I'm digesting personalities... (whoooow my metaphors are getting peculiar.)

Anyway so mooooving right along... The conclusion I am drawing is that for me, I feel I don't know you fully until I have seen you cheesed off - it's like seeing you display irritation confirms that, like everyone, you have an imperfection, you are a real person and not some puppet or an actor trying to be someone else. The lesson is that be careful who you become when you are angry - because that is when people are watching the most closely. ... Especially me - who just wants to classify you and pop you in that box. ("hmmmm a fine specimen of the order of perfectionist-about-accurate-details variety")